Did you receive a Push Present? If so did you ask for it or was it a total surprise?
I recently read an article in a national newspaper on the ‘Rise of the Push Present’. According the paper 40% of new mums receive a gift from their partners just for giving birth. Four very posh ladies all discussed their ‘Push Presents’ ranging from designer handbags to £1,000 food mixers.
Now I’m going to be honest and say I got a couple of ‘Push Presents’ from my hubby ( eternity ring & food/booze filled basket) and I may have dropped a few hints to steer him in the right direction but reading the article left me feeling cold. These ladies made statements like –
‘I wholeheartedly believe that women deserve a little something, however small, from their partner after having a baby’
‘It shows he’s thought about her and realises the sacrifices she’s made to carry and have their child.’
‘Another benefit of the push present is that the more children a woman has, the more presents she will receive’
This isn’t painting us ladies in a good light is it? I asked a group of fellow bloggers if they received anything from their partners and what their thoughts were on the subject.Katy from What Katy Said commented –
‘I told Mr F that an eternity ring was the traditional gift I wanted to complete the set! Wedding ring closest to your heart, engagement ring locks in the marriage and eternity ring locks them both in for all of eternity’ .
My own Eternity ring was extra special as it was designed by my husband and the 3 stones were taken from a necklace he had given me on our Wedding Day. They aren’t the biggest stones in the world but knowing no one else has an eternity ring like mine makes it all the more precious.
Maria from Happy Mummy was treated to a pamper day with her hubby.
‘I got a trip to the centre parks spa suites 🙂 Mr H booked it straight after Lily’s birth and we went just after my 6 week check; it was the best push present a much needed relax!’
How many of us would have loved this after the first few weeks of sleepless nights.Pure bliss !!
To give a dads prospective on ‘Push Presents’, Dave from The Dadventurer said ‘ I think ‘Push Presents’ are a good idea, as long as they are not expected. I bought the missus a ring. I wanted to get her something special and thoughtful, so I got it with my daughter’s birthstone. When my daughter hits a significant birthday like 16, 18 or 21, the plan would be to pass the ring down to her’.I love this idea as my dad brought my mum a smoky quartz ring to celebrate my birth and it was given to me on my 21st Birthday.
Now not all women agree with the concept of receiving a ‘Push Present’,Sophie from Tattooed Tealady commented ‘I don’t like the idea of ‘push presents’. For me, having my baby, who completely changed my world and showed me a love I never knew existed, is the only gift I could ever need. I think the idea that someone should buy you a present for giving birth is bizarre and the term itself is tacky’. I can see Sophie’s point about the term ‘Push Present’ and everyone is entitled to their own opinions but for me the second i saw Naomi from Me Becoming Mum comments all about her beautiful gold ‘Mum’ locket all doubts about ‘Push Presents’ disappeared.
‘It was not something I asked for, or expected, but it was such a lovely little thing to receive. After losing our first in 2009 and having fertility issues, it was a symbol of finally being a mum with a baby in my arms’
I would never want to give up my beautiful eternity ring or the 2 hours i spent devouring Stilton cheese & a can of G&T on my 1st night out of hospital but i never felt like it was my right as a new mum to demand such things.I think the ladies in the article have a twisted view of what a ‘Push Present’ actually is and sadly are spoiling it for us genuinely over the moon ‘normal mums’
What are your thoughts on the subject of ‘Push Presents’?Did you receive one or was having a baby present enough?
Thank you so much for featuring me. I love the idea of Daves gift to be passed down to his daughter, that is so lovely x
Thank you for commenting on the feed.Everyones thoughts and gifts where great but,Dave’s gift is a winner !
Thank you for featuring me. I will always treasure my locket and my beautiful rainbow baby xxx
I was having a little cry when i read it.Makes me wants to cuddle my babies just a little bit more X
Thank you so much for including me! I loved my push present and it gave me 24 hours to completely chill out and recover from my birth & lack of sleep during the first 6 weeks 🙂 x
Great husband ( very very nice in a robe too ) !!
Push presents are an interesting one, aren’t they … very American. I agree with Sophie that baby is gift enough, and also with Dave that it shouldn’t be expected – for one, you save yourself the disappointment and potential discord it could lead to. Nonetheless, I like the idea of presents like an eternity ring. Even then, I don’t feel a need to be commended for giving birth; an act of love for us, but also for myself.
Good selection of thoughts on this issue. 🙂
Some lovely ideas and presents featured in your post, they all have a meaningful value to them which is nice. My husband has bought me a little gift at various stages of pregnancy – when we reached halfway, when I finished work for mat leave – but I don’t think he’d heard of a push present until I told him about a couple of my friends being given gifts by their partners. I now wish I hadn’t said anything because to me, it was just conversation, it wasn’t my way of hinting for a gift and I’d much prefer that it comes from him only if he wants to do it, not because I’ve made him feel like I have to #justanotherlinky
I would have loved one but I barely got a cup of tea! The romance has died down a little when it’s your third child apparently! Thanks for sharing on #fortheloveofBLOG x