A Writing Affair

I have been asked many times why I started a blog and the answer is simply because I was bored. 7 months into Maternity leave and starting to go insane with life at home with 2 small children, no money and the onset of chronic baby brain I needed to bring passion back into my life. Not the tantric sex type of passion (though I’m sure my husband would have been up for that), the type of passion where your brain explodes with ideas. I didn’t really follow any other bloggers before I started The UnNatural Mother. I enjoyed seeing the funny stickmen pictures from Hurrah for Gin and I loved the fashion style of Dress Like a Mum but as far as putting fingers to a keyboard and sharing my innermost thoughts the idea never entered my head. So when I found myself one sunny July afternoon typing my 1st post about a disastrous visit from the Vicar no one was more surprised than me. From that point onwards and now about to hit my 6th month of blogging, I have been having an affair with writing. It’s like my dirty little secret that’s just for me but I share with the world.When I am writing, I am writing for myself and it’s like The UnNatural Mother is writing a letter to Becci. Writing has been a cheap form of therapy and there isn’t a day I don’t type out a post, but 99% of them stay unpublished and just my way of clearing my mind. I have to admit that I also love the ego boost I get when someone stop’s me to talk about one of my posts and more recently vlogs. I always act coy but inside I’m bursting with pride that someone other than my husband is reading my work.

Writing has not just killed the boredom but it’s given me a purpose again. Of course, I love being a mummy but for me, I need more. I want to make a lasting mark in the world and although I am still Nemo in a vast ocean of Bruce’s I’m going to ‘ Just Keep Swimming ‘ until I get there.For now, my writing will stay as an affair as I have bills to pay and mouths to feed but I do dream one day of finally running away with my new love and living happily ever after in a writing Nirvana.

What’s your passion in life? Is being a mummy enough for you? Let me know your thoughts and comment below.


31 responses to “A Writing Affair”

  1. Rochelle says:

    Such a good read! I started blogging since becoming a stay at home mum and literally trying to find something to pass the time with. Despite the fact I have twins and they alone keep me busy, I felt like I was going ‘brain dead’ I was extremely bored. Blogging is something I’m trying to stick at, and improve each time. I’ve been doing it for about 9 months now and the difference from when I first started is so crazy to me.

    • The UnNatural Mother says:

      Thank you 🙂 Writing has been my saviour and I am so proud of myself for keeping it up. Trying to get 5 minutes to write is often hard but for me it’s my meditation ( & medication !! ) and it helps clear my mind of all the stresses of the day. Congrats on 9 months of blogging X

  2. Dominique says:

    I started blogging 5 months ago for the same reason as you, I needed somewhere for myself. I call my blog my own little bubble a place to get lost in and enjoy something for myself. I love being a mum but I am not just a mum, we all need things for ourselves and hopefully not look back one day and think what have I done in life for me… One day our babies won’t be babies anymore, what will we have then? Hopefully hobbies and things that we love. I think that my mum never did anything for herself so now suffers with depression, she loved to draw but didn’t, so I’ve learnt to try build a life not just around my son ‘if that makes sense’. x

    • The UnNatural Mother says:

      It makes total sense and I am sorry to hear your mum suffers from depression.Life at times can be hard on all of us and simply joys can be the key to stopping the dark days. I love your blog and how uplifting is it . Thank you so much for commenting and Merry Christmas

  3. I can identify with a lot of this. I started out of boredom too and hadn’t read any blogs before, around 6 months ago. I had never done any writing before so am fascinated by the whole thing #fortheloveofblog

    • The UnNatural Mother says:

      I really find it therapeutic and a release after a long day.I’m also a lot healthier as my need for wine has reduced

  4. I did exactly the same! since then, no regret! Love it more and more and I am truly addicted. It’s only been like 8 months and I have no intention to stop! good luck with your blog x #fortheloveofBLOG

  5. Oh I love this! This is the first time I’ve read one of your blogs and I adore your style – heading over to subscribe lovely! It’s like sitting and chatting over a coffee (or wine!) – my total favourite kind of blog- and I totally adore the writing affair – that is precisely what ‘m having too – the best kind! Aww thrilled to have found a new blog to follow! #fortheloveofBLOG

    • The UnNatural Mother says:

      Thank you so much 🙂 I’m actually blushing.I have been following you for a while and love your style. The thought of my 2 being teens is enough to send me looking for Vodka.

  6. Ali Duke says:

    I have always wanted to write, but never had an outlet for it. Then I found blogging. I love it and would love it to be more of a full time thing, but for now I am happy just to be writing x

  7. Claire says:

    I love your way of looking at blogging! I definitely feel a similar way about it, especially the one day running away with it part! x #fortheloveofBLOG

  8. Roxanne says:

    I feel very similar! Love this post 🙂 #postsfromtheheart x

  9. Anna says:

    I love this post, it’s important to keep your brain alive and with children it’s so hard to find a little space alone, the loo isn’t even sacred any more! Creating your own little bit of space online is fantastic.
    I started my blog about a year ago, it was the closest I had to a conversation sometimes, even though it was still with myself, this year I have decided to up my game in case any one else might actually be interested in what I have to say 😀 #postsfromtheheart

  10. It’s amazing isn’t it. Blogging for therapy – so many more people should try it. I have a ton of draft posts that will never see the light of day too! Can’t believe you’ve been going six months and achieved so much! Well done! Thanks for linking up to #fortheloveofBLOG x

  11. I always thought being a mummy was all I would need to be happy, um no! As it turned out I needed more. My kids are everything to me and God knows I tried hard to have them! But I also have another passion and that is writing, so I totally feel you here! I need to write, not just want to, it is a NEED! #PostsFromTheHeart.

  12. Jess - New Mumblings says:

    Agreed! I had a similar path – 8 months in I needed to get all the jumbled thoughts down on a screen and also needed to focus on something else. I still remember walking through the local park, thinking about the name for my blog and feeling excited. I still need writing and work to balance out my life. #PostsFromTheHeart

  13. Jacinta says:

    Being Mummy is enough for me. 🙂 But blogging in this platform to serve my readers was a commitment I made to God – to honor what He laid upon my heart to do.

  14. Joanne - Mummy Of The Suburbs says:

    Enjoying reading your post! Everyone has a slightly different reason for starting to blog. You have achieved a lot in 6 months. I have been blogging about the same amount of time as you, I started to blog as I was so inspired by someone I know and what she had achieved. I sort of go up and down with liking it and then doubting myself on it. However I just keep going and try to ensure that I post at least once a week.


  15. Yes! Purpose, drive, passion, all of this!

  16. Catherine says:

    This is similar to why i write. Its like an itch that needs to be scratched. And I didn’t know how much I would enjoy it until I started. I can’t believe you’re only 6 months in, you seem so established. What are your tips for a 2.5 month old blogger? #postsfromtheheart

  17. Michelle says:

    Love this! This is exactly how I felt. I’m four months in and love that I have found this outlet for my thoughts #PostsFromTheHeart

  18. It’s great to have found your blog, love your writing style. I think we all fall into this blogging thing through a love of writing and we get out what we put in. You have obviously invested huge amounts of time and energy and have some very clear goals going forward. Good luck and I look forward to following you on your journey. #postsfromtheheart

  19. Anne says:

    That’s lovely! And judging by the comments a lot of bloggers feel the same. Count me in too, I love just writing things down in my blog, even if I don’t publish them. They are always there for me.

  20. Crummy Mummy says:

    I am a journalist so love writing too – sometimes I wish I was I ‘just’ a mum but ultimately I like having and need something ‘else’ #postsfromtheheart

  21. Writing has always been my “thing”. It’s the thing I enjoyed the most through school, the subject I studied my degree in and the career path I followed before the children. Writing my blog was a way of clawing back a little me time, doing something that I enjoyed and felt proud of, and has led me to a whole world of experiences and opportunities. I love being a mummy, but the thing I love more is being a mummy who writes. #postsfromtheheart

  22. I love this and feel the same about writing. My blog is my own little project that I’m always working on…a chance to escape and do something for me! I think I started blogging because of boredom too and I think it’s wonderful you’ve found something you love. thanks for hosting #postsfromtheheart x

  23. Roxanne says:

    I started for similar reasons!! Love this post and your blog is awesome xxx #postsfromtheheart

  24. The Hippy Christian Mum says:

    I know what you mean about the passion. I’ve been blogging 8 months and while I don’t write every day I love it too. #PostsfromtheHeart

  25. Catherine says:

    I started blogging as a way to let off steam in between writing books. I have to say, I love it! Every blog post is like its own short story with a beginning, middle and an end. Cx #postsfromtheheart

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